We speak about confidence all the time on this blog. You often see us breaking down exactly why confidence is the key to success in various fields such as dating, finances and even business in general. The basis of success in any venture in life stems from confidence. You have to believe in yourself and be 100% assured in yourself before anyone else believes in you. Let’s think about it, how can you expect to go out and change the world if you don’t have any confidence in yourself. You talk all high and mighty in your mind but when you look yourself in the mirror you see nothing but a sack of potatoes. You can’t even take yourself seriously, you expect someone else to? Listen fellas, confidence is a virtue, a virtue that can enable you to achieve great things.
HOW TO GET MORE CONFIDENCE| IT STARTS WITH YOU.
It starts with you! Confidence should always come from within, true genuine self esteem can’t be broken or altered by external forces. Think about it, can you even call it confidence if you rely on others for that validation to make you feel better about yourself? That’s counterintuitive if you ask me. Firstly as men, I need you guys to firstly understand that you are not alone when it comes to this. Millions of men all around the world struggle with some form of confidence issues, whether it’s insecurity, worthlessness or pessimism, you are not alone. In fact, according to mensjournal.com about one fifth of the men surveyed were insecure about their physical appearance. Based on that average, 1 in 5 men are unconfident about their body, we haven’t even talked about finances or masculinity yet.
HOW TO GET MORE CONFIDENCE| THE INSECURITY COMPLEX
I said all this to say guys that you are not alone, there are definitely a lot of men who have confidence issues. In fact, people are more likely to lack confidence in today’s society simply because of the over aggrandized, over romanticized ‘flex culture’. Which means that people tend to portray themselves in a false reality on social media, to send a message that they are better off than they actually are. This is indeed a part of the problem. When people who aren’t redpill aware now, open up their social media, they meet these unrealistic ideals, compare it to their reality and then judges themselves because they don’t have a life similar to what is shown on social media (which is fake for the record) and so the cycle continues. You see how toxic society is?
HOW TO GET MORE CONFIDENCE| THE AIM
You guys already know, it’s in our best interest to not only give you guys solutions to problems you encounter in life as a man but to ensure that you become the best men you can possibly be in all aspects. When it comes to getting more confidence, the aim is no different. As the stat above showed, confidence issues are definitely a very common theme in the manosphere and it’s only going to get worse. As I always say on this blog, confidence is single handedly the most attractive masculine trait. It’s absolutely imperative that you not only build your confidence, but leverage such trait in intersexual or interrelational dynamics in general. “But h-h-howww do I go about building confidence??” You may have asked by now. Luckily we give solutions to life defining questions on redpilltactics.com, so it’s my pleasure to present to you 5 MEASURES YOU CAN TAKE, TO BUILD MORE CONFIDENCE.
1.Hit The Gym
Do I need to say it guys? Like do I really need to say it? I’ll continue to repeat this to ensure that you get it into some of your thick skulls. As a masculine man, you absolutely NEED to get in shape. I will be accepting ZERO excuses where this is concerned. IN 2021 IT IS ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE TO BE OVERWEIGHT. If your lack of confidence stems from your weight, body shape or posture, get out of this victim’s mindset and put in the work to get in shape. Your body is something you have complete control over, so you should never be falling victim to insecurity where this is concerned. Hitting the gym builds immense amounts of confidence as seeing your body transform into something desirable gives you that sense of gratification and self fulfillment that few things in life can compare to. It’s a reason why fitness is the biggest Instagram niche, because it works!
2.Practice Eye Contact
I challenge you guys to consciously and intentionally lock eye contact with someone for one or two seconds longer than you usually would. Obviously you won’t go staring guys right in the face with your face all tensed and your fists clenched, this will probably get you punched in the face. Focus on maintaining good friendly eye contact. This subconsciously puts you in a confident position in social settings. The confidence and bravery it takes to hold eye contact with people is something that very few individuals can master. Maintaining eye contact also puts you in a dominant position in a conversation, as it makes you appear more assertive and direct with whatever it is you try to convey. Think about it, would you take someone seriously who continuously looks at the floor, has bad posture and speaks softly when speaking with you? Exactly, strong eye contact speaks a million words.
3.Go Out More
Get out of your house, challenge yourself socially, get out your own space! It’s the only way you will expose yourself to the social world and it’s the only way you can gain confidence in yourself. Let’s face it, a lot of people’s confidence issues stems from how one believes they are perceived by other people. By challenging yourself to go out and socialize or interact with other people, it forces you to adjust to this dynamic and eventually become comfortable. It also opens you up to one of the biggest red pill truths there is, no one actually cares about you as much as you think. This is something that I’ve learned as I grow older. Think about it, when you’re in a social setting, half the time you are caught up in your own business, your conversations and your activities, what makes you think other people are any different? Exactly this should give you incentive to get out there and have a drink with the boys or go to the bowling alley with your friends, it’ll do wonders for your confidence!
4.Start Random Conversations
If you haven’t noticed by now, what builds your confidence the most is expanding your comfort zone. When you expand your comfort zone, you find that a lot of things would no longer scare you or trigger your anxiety like it used to. Because of this response to adaptation, you build confidence as a result. As I mentioned before, confidence is a virtue and it can only be achieved by doing things that get you out of your comfort zone. Starting conversations with random people would build your confidence exponentially. Speaking from personal experience, I haven’t gotten over approach anxiety until I racked up dozens of approaches to random people. This doesn’t only go for women fellas, you can approach guys too, this would help you build confidence in conversation and allows for you to build relationships that can serve you in the future. Confidence comes from facing your fears and overcoming them, so go ahead and approach that cute girl, or ask that guy for advice, you won’t regret it.
5.Do Activities Alone
I recently wrote a blog, explaining the power and strength in being a lone wolf when doing activities for a season in your life. What I probably didn’t mention though is that in doing activities alone you build more confidence in yourself. What you need to understand is that plenty of our insecurities or self doubts stem from feelings of weakness. One of the best ways to combat this feeling is to do the things that scare you all alone. I know this sounds counterproductive but let me explain. Doing activities alone helps you to understand that firstly, you don’t need anyone to get what you have to get done. It develops a sense of independence and strength which ultimately gets you out of the mentality of seeking validation outside of yourself. Secondly it gets you to understand that you are all you need to feel secure and confident in your own skin and it has always been that way.
THAT’S ALL FOLKS!!
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